What’s in a name?

Yesterday, my son spotted an elderly photographer in the park and asked for a photo. We’ll call him Lolo. 

Lolo wore a warm smile, black-rimmed eyeglasses, a denim vest, a fisherman’s hat, and two digital SLR cameras around his neck. Lolo charged 50 pesos—less than a dollar—per photo. After we paid, he asked us to wait in the park while he printed our pictures.

My husband hesitated, skeptical if Lolo would return. But I said, “Batangas ‘to,” reassuring myself of the trust we’ve found in Batangas City, our home for over five years now. It’s not blind trust, but a belief in the good woven into the community, rooted in God’s guidance. I wanted to support Lolo’s work—he wasn’t begging; he was offering a service.

While waiting, my son raced around the park, turned a concrete slope into a slide and played with other kids. I met three moms, exchanged short stories of family and faith—connections I’d have missed if we’d rushed home after our hospital visit.

Batangas a-reh!

The sun dipped low, and the church bells of the Minor Basilica of the Immaculate Conception rang for the Angelus (6:00 PM). Doubt crept in. Was my husband right? I prayed silently, trusting God, that Lolo would return.

One mom reassured me that Lolo’s a local; he also took their pictures a while back. My son, sweaty and thirsty, sat beside me. My husband nodded toward the car. I repeated, “Batangas ‘to,” holding onto faith.

After a few more minutes, Lolo returned, handing us our photos in brown envelopes. My son blurted, “Where were you, Mr. Photographer?” Lolo chuckled. I saw how he took pride in his work and asked his name—Emil, he said, hesitantly. “Thank you, Sir Emil,” I said, texting him gratitude. His face lit up. Using his name made him feel seen, just as God sees us.

Batangas may not be perfect, but it’s relatively safe*, with trust running deep like roots in good soil. We can talk to strangers in the park—not fearfully, but wisely, with God’s discernment. 

As we train our kids, let’s take notice of people’s kindness, honor the elderly, and see the good in people. Let’s also remind our kids to always check with us before conversing with strangers. Using someone’s name—like Lolo Emil’s—builds bridges. It shows they matter. Try it: say a cashier’s or server’s name, share a smile, and trust our Heavenly Father’s care. 

Batangas ‘to—or as the locals would say, “Batangas a-reh!


*Looking for stats and facts? For the latest data or report on crime rates in the Philippines, you may check here or here.

To my 19 year-old self

You graduated from university without Latin honors but with a peculiar label: No Boyfriend Since Birth.

A personal achievement, I would say.

More than being chaste however, remember this: purity begins with God, transforms the mind, travels down the heart and is manifested in your choices and relationships.

No, don’t follow your heart. It is desperately sick, deceitful, wicked.

No, you’re not missing out if nobody asks you out.

Make a 5-year plan. An 11-year plan. Or even your plan for next month, next week or… today. List your priorities down. There’s more to life than just being employed in a 9-to-5 job – or a job that rakes in a hefty daily pay.

The Spice Girls are singing, “Tell me what you want? What you really, really want?” – they’re asking the boys. Don’t mind the boys, they’re busy with toys. Some of them still don’t understand the difference between a girl and a toy.

Don’t be a churchgoer. Your body is God’s temple and you are a part of His body. Honor Him.

No, don’t handle things your way – even the things you say you do for God. Get to know Him better. 

Honor your parents, treat them right. Spend more time with your sisters. Friends come and go but your sisters, they’re there for life. 

It’s totally fine if you don’t have all the answers. It’s acceptable for you not to be an expert on anything. We all make mistakes. Celebrate your progress. Perfection is an illusion.

Go out and have fun, drink a little and remember: 1 Tequila, 2 Tequila, 3 Tequila, floor! Alcohol is good for sanitizing hands, but it isn’t a heartbreak’s cure.

Swimming, cooking, martial arts, decision-making and driving are life skills. To thrive, you need common sense and a good EQ.

Keep journaling. You’ll be very busy and you’ll soon get sucked into the reality of adulthood. Write even on days when all you can write (or sing with Eddie Vedder) is “I’m still alive.

It’s totally okay if the only prayer you’ve memorized is “Our Father.” Prayer isn’t and shouldn’t be memorized. Prayer is our two-way connection, a feedback loop, with God. God IS our Heavenly Father, and while He desires reverence, He also delights in honesty.

Pray God’s Word – read your Bible. Love Him with your heart, soul, mind and strength. Train your ears to know His voice. Anchor everything on Him because He never fails. Never ever.

“How then can they call on the One in whom they have not believed? And how can they believe in the One of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone to preach?” Romans‬ ‭10‬:‭14‬ ‭BSB‬‬

There. I’ve preached on you and you’ve heard what you needed to hear. Believe God for the unbelievable. He says, “I am with you, always…

P.S. I’d like to remind you that the road up ahead is filled with choices. You’re always free to choose but you can never choose the consequences of your choices. So choose wisely; choose kindly; and whenever possible, choose the road less traveled.

P.P.S. Three decades from now, the world would be outrageously different from what you’ve known. Always keep moving forward towards the direction of your dreams. Follow Jesus. Pack lightly.

slice of life.

all we see are but slices

of an eternal journey

laden with thorns and thistles

when the road is smooth

it makes one wonder

is the easy life 

only meant for a grave sinner?

when one chooses

the straight and narrow

why is there only pain and sorrow?

we curate highlights

and skip the lowlights

we laud the trophies,

mute the travails

yet beauty can, too, be found

in the thick of chaos

and peace be had

in the dusky shadows

the rich and the pauper

go meet the same end

when their hearts are set 

on Heaven’s dividends.