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Open Letter for Momsie

Momsieeeee ❤️‍🩹

Every soul needs nurturing, not only by loving ourselves but by loving one another. I learned this through you.

When I needed a lift, you were there. When my heart needed rebuke, you gave it. And when my ‘ancoreny’ jokes needed someone to laugh with, you were there, too.

I am still in disbelief, grieving your passing. If love was about keeping score, I’d like to think that I was there for you as much as you were for me. I loved you deeply, even when I failed to show up in many occasions. Praise God, ours was a relationship built on grace and mutual support but Momsie, you win.

I remember that morning you called me to ask about our wedding cake. In your signature gentle voice, you asked, “Kumusta ka?” “Okay naman Momsie, why?” was my reply.

You didn’t know what I had gone through the previous night—how I tried several times to place an order online but went to bed tired and frustrated. So when you said, “I want to give you a cake,” my heart literally leapt for joy. That call was an unexpected blessing, a reflection of the selfless love you always showed, a tangible proof of God’s providence.

I remember tagging along in one of your visits to the grocery. I was amazed that you didn’t have a list but you didn’t go beyond the budget. You were Holy Spirit-led even in the grocery store.

You showed me a love that never judged nor condemned, a love that gently corrected me and embraced me unconditionally.

Remember our time together at the Araneta Coliseum for the “Just Give Me Jesus” event? We were seated near the bleachers and there you joyfully shared that you no longer practiced your old religion. Your courage inspired me, big time.

Our conversations often centered on how we could further God’s kingdom with the resources He has already given, trusting that He would multiply our efforts.

I also remember the first time I saw tears in your eyes as you lamented the selfishness of this world. It was a powerful, tenderhearted moment that showed how deeply you cared for others.

You patiently guided and coached me to tread gracefully, to let go of my fears, and to learn to trust.

Listening to you courageously and honestly share your life has been a source of deep learning for me. Application is always the difficult part, yet as we have learned and experienced in uniquely personal ways, God never abandons us to figure things out on our own. He graciously walks alongside us, pouring out His love and embracing us in His truth and presence day by day, moment by moment.

Momsie, if life was a computer game, I lost a huge percentage of my life bars now that you’re fully asleep. I am power-less without you. I know you’ll rebuke me for that and point me back to who our Source is.

“Now, brothers, we want you to know the truth about those who have died; otherwise, you might become sad the way other people do who have nothing to hope for. For since we believe that Yeshua died and rose again, we also believe that in the same way God, through Yeshua, will take with him those who have died.” 1 Thessalonians (1 Th)‬ ‭4‬:‭13‬-‭14‬ ‭CJB‬‬

“Mga kapatid, nais naming malaman ninyo ang katotohanan tungkol sa mga namatay na upang hindi kayo magdalamhati tulad ng mga taong walang pag-asa. Dahil naniniwala tayong si Jesus ay namatay at muling nabuhay, naniniwala din tayong bubuhayin ng Diyos upang isama kay Jesus ang lahat ng mga namatay na sumasampalataya sa kanya.” 1 Mga Taga-Tesalonica‬ ‭4‬:‭13‬-‭14‬ ‭MBBTAG12‬‬

In the movie Gladiator, Maximus is speaking to a fellow prisoner who asks him about his family.

Fellow Prisoner: What will you do?
Maximus: I will have my vengeance, in this life or the next.
Fellow Prisoner: You have a family?
Maximus: I had a family.
Fellow Prisoner: Do you think you’ll see them again?
Maximus: Not yet.

Maximus expresses his longing for his wife and son, who were killed. The fellow prisoner urges him to let go of his grief, but Maximus, reflecting on his loved ones, firmly replies:

“I will have my vengeance, in this life or the next.”

As he grapples with his grief and the purpose behind his fight, he envisions his family and reaffirms his commitment to live and seek vengeance for them. The emotional weight of his memories leads him to remind himself, “Not yet,” signifying that he still has work to do before he can be with them again.

Such moment captures the deep sense of loss Maximus feels and his determination to honor his loved ones by continuing to fight.

Momsie, though your death calls for no vengeance, Maximus’ grief resounds deeply in me. Wala na ang nag-iisa kong Momsie whom I loved and trusted dearly. God, our Heavenly King, has taken you back Home. Grief is hard but I will choose to press on, keeping my eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith. I believe this is what you would have me do.

Sabi ni little Kuya Hope, “Don’t worry about your best girl, when your mission is done you will hug her again in Heaven.”

Momsie, I will never forget you. I will miss you. Thank you for all the warm hugs and all the prayers you uttered on our behalf. Thank you soooo much for being the mom our souls needed. We’ll see each other in the next, but Lord-willing, not yet.

What to Talk About: Polite Conversation Starters and the model of Jesus

Ever wish you could easily spark a fun conversation? I do! With a few simple starters, we can turn any gathering into a joyful connection!

Here are safe topics in any environment:

1. Hobbies and Interests – Ask about books, movies, gardening, crafts, or other leisure activities. “What hobbies do you enjoy in your free time?” “Which good book or great movie do you recommend?”

2. Travel – Share experiences or ask about favorite destinations, travel tips, or future plans. “What’s the best vacation you’ve ever had?” “What’s the top destination in your travel bucket list?”

3. Food – Discuss favorite recipes, local restaurants, or culinary adventures. “What’s your favorite dish to cook or eat?” “Have you discovered any new restaurants or recipes recently? What’s a recipe you’d like to try?”

4. Family Activities – Talk about fun activities you do with your family or ask about theirs. “What’s a fun activity your family likes to do together?” “Do you have any family traditions that you cherish? Which one would you like to start?”

5. Current Events – Discuss non-controversial news stories or events, like community happenings or cultural events.“Which community event have you joined recently?” “What’s a positive or funny news story you’ve come across lately?”

6. Pets and Animals – Share stories about pets or ask about their experiences with animals. “Do you have any pets? What are their names? What kind of pet would you like to have?” “What’s the funniest thing your pet has ever done?”

7. Home Improvement – Exchange tips on home projects, gardening, or DIY ideas. “Are you working on any home improvement projects right now? Which project are you considering to start?” “What’s your favorite home improvement hack?”

8. Local Attractions – Discuss interesting places to visit in the area, such as parks, museums, or festivals. “Have you visited any new places in the area recently? Where would you like to visit?” “What’s your favorite local spot to relax or have fun?”

These topics are generally more enjoyable and can help foster connections without the risk of discomfort.

On the flip side – unless you’re with close friends or people in your circle of trust – avoid these like the plague:

1. Politics – Opinions can clash quickly, leading to uncomfortable conversations.

2. Religion – While faith can be a beautiful topic, it can also lead to deep divides if not approached carefully.

3. Personal finances – Questions about income or spending habits can feel intrusive and create discomfort.

4. Personal Relationships – Questions about someone’s marital status, dating life, or family issues can feel invasive. Talking about exes can stir up old emotions or lead to comparisons, making others uneasy.

5. Health Issues – Discussing personal health problems or medical conditions can make others uncomfortable.

6. Controversial Issues – Topics like abortion, gun control, and social justice can spark strong emotions and disagreements. Debates on issues like climate change or social justice can ignite passionate disagreements, making conversations tense.

What would Jesus do?

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” — Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

Communication is a vital part of our daily interactions, and for those of us who identify as followers of Christ, we are called to reflect His love and grace in our conversations. Jesus exemplified perfect communication, engaging with people in ways that were both polite and meaningful. He knew how to approach every situation with wisdom and kindness, making those around Him feel valued and understood.

Jesus as Our Model

1. Empathy in Conversation:

Jesus often took the time to listen and understand those He interacted with. Whether it was the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4) or the blind man (Mark 10:46-52), He engaged them with genuine interest. We can follow His example by asking about others’ interests, sharing thoughts on hobbies, and exploring their experiences.

• Starter: “What hobbies do you enjoy in your free time?”

2. Building Relationships:

Jesus built relationships with those around Him, often sharing meals and time together. He demonstrated that conversation can foster connection. We can ask about family activities, traditions, and shared interests to strengthen our relationships.

• Starter: “What’s a fun activity your family likes to do together?”

3. Promoting Positivity:

Jesus spoke words of encouragement and hope. He focused on uplifting those around Him. We can incorporate positive news or light-hearted stories in our conversations to create an uplifting atmosphere.

• Starter: “Have you heard about any interesting events happening in the community?”

4. Celebrating Creation:

Jesus often used nature in His teachings, showing appreciation for God’s creation. We can admire the beauty around us by discussing local attractions or favorite outdoor spots.

• Starter: “What’s your favorite local spot to relax or have fun?”

As we interact with others, we can be intentional about our conversations the way Jesus did. Let’s engage others with humility, genuine curiosity and kindness. Remember LOVE: Listen as you Observe and when you Verbalize, Empathize. We can choose topics that bring joy and connection, helping others feel seen and heard.

Let’s pray.

Father God, thank You for the gift of communication. Help me to reflect Your love in my conversations. Give me the wisdom to choose words that encourage and uplift others. May my interactions be full of grace, just as You have shown me. In Jesus’ sweet name, Amen.

A Milestone Marker

Looking back on my journey, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude for how the Lord has faithfully pursued me, shaping my walk with Him in profound ways.

The Invitation

I was a scrawny 8 or 10 year-old in Natividad Apartments, Quezon City when He sent a new neighbor to share the Gospel of Jesus with me.

I can’t recall how she exactly looks like but by God’s grace I remember her name, Tita Elen Inguengan, and the kindness in her eyes.

For many Sundays, with my Mama’s permission, I went with Tita Elen to a church in Quiapo, Manila. It was called Bond Servants of Christ Christian Fellowship, with services held in Gallego Building.

Kids were in a separate room but I didn’t want to play with them. They they were too noisy. I wanted to listen and learn more about Jesus so I told Tita Elen about it. She graciously let me sit beside her and other grown-ups in the big hall.

Every Sunday, after the message, the grown-ups would break out into small groups and talk about the Bible. I remember one remarkable grown-up whose Bible was filled with pages of colorful highlights. Some underlined their Bibles with a pen while others only encircled the verse numbers. As a young girl, I desired to have my own Bible like the grown-ups did.

One particular Sunday I would never forget was when I went to the front of the congregation in response to an altar call. The pastor and several other grown-ups stood around me and laid their hands above my head. I prayed with them and asked Jesus to be my LORD and Savior.

You know the feeling of happiness that puts a spring to your step and gives you a lingering smile? After praying, I walked the aisle and back to my seat with that kind of happiness and so much more. I know that now as a one-of-a-kind kilig, a certain joy like no other having met the Lover of my soul.

The Bible

After some time, the church moved to Bayview Hotel. My Mama and I, along with my then little sister Joy, attended services there. One Christmas celebration, we received a red NIV Bible as a gift.

I read the Bible on my own and the very first verse I read on it was Isaiah 41:10 –

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 NIV

A Typo Error

Another verse that I first learned thru that Bible was Galatians 5:22-23. I thought it had a typo error — “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

That time, I already believed the Bible can’t be wrong but I wondered – how come it said ‘fruit,’ not ‘fruits’? I had that question in my mind for a very long time. It was only about a little over a decade ago when I understood and became fully convinced that it wasn’t a typo error, that it was intentional.

I don’t know what happened to the church that used to meet in Gallego. Tita Elen, if you’re on FB and you’re reading this, please know that I am suuuuper grateful that you shared Jesus with me back then in Novaliches. Now that I am a parent, I cannot imagine a life without Him.

A Milestone Marker

There were times when, as a young adult, I asked Jesus to let me walk on my own. He let me but He never left.

During those years when I stubbornly chose to walk in the darkness of self-sufficiency and sin, my Jesus, my soul’s First Love, continued to love me even from a distance.

I remember back in 2000, when my relationship with Jesus was on a standstill, somebody asked me something like, “Who do you think will win?”

Prior to being asked that impromptu question, I was backstage with other ladies, holding hands in prayer.

I believe today, as much as I believed back then, that we do our best, give our best, when something matters to us. I couldn’t recall my answer in verbatim but I said something like, “The winner is the one whose best the judges see as the best of the best.”

I sashayed and won the title. On top of the accolades, however, I was awarded with a bejeweled crown that I cannot keep.

Several years after that, I made a U-turn to Jesus and got baptized in a singles’ retreat. As my relationship with my First Love was restored, I transitioned to knowing Him more intimately.

My desire to read the Bible was rekindled. Gradually, God helped me understand that the borrowed crown He allowed to be on my head was not a stepping stone but a milestone marker.

It marked my way back Home.

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.” James 1:12 BSB

“Everyone who competes in the games trains with strict discipline. They do it for a crown that is perishable, but we do it for a crown that is imperishable.” 1 Corinthians 9:25 BSB

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. From now on there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but to all who crave His appearing.” 2 Timothy 4:7-8 BSB

“And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.” 1 Peter 5:4 BSB

I’ve been walking with Jesus for more than 30 years now yet my journey is far from over.

Sometimes I sashay into my day as if nothing or nobody can stop me. Most of the time, however, I shuffle my feet from one task to the next, fighting through derailing thoughts. And all the while, I prioritize peace with my Jesus, finding comfort in His hugs like a little child.

“Christ came and preached peace to you non-Jews who were far away from God. And he preached peace to those Jews who were near to God. Yes, through Christ we all have the right to come to the Father in one Spirit.” Ephesians 2:17-18 ICB