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Building A Plane on the Fly: Navigating Proverbs 12:1

As we embark on our homeschooling journey more intentionally, our family is learning about the importance of wisdom and discipline. My husband and I definitely don’t have all the answers, but I’m trusting that God is molding us through His Word and the experiences we see through the lens of Scripture.

For October 12, 2024, my son and I read Proverbs 12:1 — “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” We were both surprised by the use of a ‘bad’ word. Why is it there?

In this post, I’ll practice the five habits of grammar* to make the concepts of wisdom and discipline more approachable.

1. What Do “Discipline” and “Wisdom” Really Mean?

Words like “discipline” and “wisdom” can feel heavy for young learners (and even old ones) so I’ll attempt to break them down into something we can understand.

First, let’s look into “stultus”, the Latin word for “stupid”. It means foolish or silly. Lately, our 5 year-old gets easily frustrated over mistakes. I told him that the Bible warns us not to be foolish, and instead be humble and willing to learn from correction. I also realize that my husband and I need to create more wonderful memories for our family to nurture our relationship. We need to let the LORD fill our love tanks to the brim so we can, in turn, nourish our son’s love tank and not dampen his confidence.

Now, “discipline”. In Latin, the word is disciplina, which also means “instruction” or “training.” I do pray that my husband and I be able to model healthy routines, how to make wise choices, and be more intentional towards achieving our goals for holistic growth.

For “wisdom” the Latin word is sapientia, meaning “knowledge” or “good judgment.” Sapientia is derived from sapere which means “to taste” or “to know”. It conveys the idea of deep knowledge or understanding. It’s knowing the right thing to do and choosing to do it, even when it’s hard.

I tried to point out some of the good things our son has done that exemplify wisdom and discipline like tidying up (we call it reset) to prepare for next day and switching to a music app when screen time is up.

2. Why Listening to Correction is Hard (but Important)

Paying attention when someone corrects us isn’t always easy—I know it’s something I still struggle with! I explained to my son that correction is really about helping us grow, not just pointing out what we did wrong.

God created us with two ears and only one mouth as a constant reminder that we ought to listen more than we speak. Here are some questions I’m considering:

• “Why do you think it’s important to listen when someone is teaching you something?”

• “What could happen if we ignore correction?”

I am hopeful that this will open up a good conversation for both of us to think about how listening can help us make better, wiser choices, even when it’s tough.

Memorizing Scripture is a powerful tool, not just for kids but for grown-ups, too. Constant repetition and recitation throughout the day can help us and our children to build a solid foundation. It’s amazing how the Book of Proverbs, 31 chapters in all, can nurture our hearts and minds towards daily wisdom-filled living.

3. Holding Wisdom in Our Hearts

To make it fun, I came up with a little melody for Proverbs 12:1 and we use “toot!” in place of “stupid” . When dealing with a moment of frustration or correction, singing it helps shift the mood towards a positive one. It’s a way to remind ourselves that loving disciplina leads to sapientia.

4. Trying to Live Out Wisdom

Sapientia isn’t just something we talk about— we try to live it out in the small moments of the day. I believe every family, whether homeschooling or not, will benefit when they make the Word of God as primary manual.

Think through these questions on how to put wisdom into practice:

• “How can we show sapientia when we don’t feel like doing our chores?”

• “What’s a wise way to respond when we’re upset or frustrated?”

I definitely don’t have it all figured out yet but I’m learning to celebrate the small wins—like when our son makes a wise choice or accepts correction with a good attitude. Or when I pause and pray to keep my inner Hulk from winning.

5. Learning Through Stories

Stories are such a great way for concepts to come alive as we connect them to real-life examples.

One such story in the Bible is when King Solomon asked God for wisdom (sapientia) (1 Kings 3:5-12). It’s a great reminder that even though we don’t always know the right thing to do, we can ask God for wisdom anytime. It’s humbling to admit my own need for correction and that I don’t always know the right thing to do, but sharing these realities with our son is a way for him to see that learning never stops.

We’re All Learners!

Wisdom is a journey, not a destination. Embracing disciplina and correction are essential to lifelong learning.

As I close, let’s revisit sapere – “to know” or “to taste”. In Psalm 34:8, we read

Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.

Through education, we’re tasting and seeing the depth of God’s goodness and protective discipline for His children.

In pursuing what really matters, I’d like to keep things simple, and trust that God is teaching us through every challenge and success. It is wonderful that God’s Word is there to guide us—especially on those days when we both could use a little extra grace.

*The Five Core Habits of Grammar™ is one of the three major tools of the Classical Conversations curriculum.

What to Talk About: Polite Conversation Starters and the model of Jesus

Ever wish you could easily spark a fun conversation? I do! With a few simple starters, we can turn any gathering into a joyful connection!

Here are safe topics in any environment:

1. Hobbies and Interests – Ask about books, movies, gardening, crafts, or other leisure activities. “What hobbies do you enjoy in your free time?” “Which good book or great movie do you recommend?”

2. Travel – Share experiences or ask about favorite destinations, travel tips, or future plans. “What’s the best vacation you’ve ever had?” “What’s the top destination in your travel bucket list?”

3. Food – Discuss favorite recipes, local restaurants, or culinary adventures. “What’s your favorite dish to cook or eat?” “Have you discovered any new restaurants or recipes recently? What’s a recipe you’d like to try?”

4. Family Activities – Talk about fun activities you do with your family or ask about theirs. “What’s a fun activity your family likes to do together?” “Do you have any family traditions that you cherish? Which one would you like to start?”

5. Current Events – Discuss non-controversial news stories or events, like community happenings or cultural events.“Which community event have you joined recently?” “What’s a positive or funny news story you’ve come across lately?”

6. Pets and Animals – Share stories about pets or ask about their experiences with animals. “Do you have any pets? What are their names? What kind of pet would you like to have?” “What’s the funniest thing your pet has ever done?”

7. Home Improvement – Exchange tips on home projects, gardening, or DIY ideas. “Are you working on any home improvement projects right now? Which project are you considering to start?” “What’s your favorite home improvement hack?”

8. Local Attractions – Discuss interesting places to visit in the area, such as parks, museums, or festivals. “Have you visited any new places in the area recently? Where would you like to visit?” “What’s your favorite local spot to relax or have fun?”

These topics are generally more enjoyable and can help foster connections without the risk of discomfort.

On the flip side – unless you’re with close friends or people in your circle of trust – avoid these like the plague:

1. Politics – Opinions can clash quickly, leading to uncomfortable conversations.

2. Religion – While faith can be a beautiful topic, it can also lead to deep divides if not approached carefully.

3. Personal finances – Questions about income or spending habits can feel intrusive and create discomfort.

4. Personal Relationships – Questions about someone’s marital status, dating life, or family issues can feel invasive. Talking about exes can stir up old emotions or lead to comparisons, making others uneasy.

5. Health Issues – Discussing personal health problems or medical conditions can make others uncomfortable.

6. Controversial Issues – Topics like abortion, gun control, and social justice can spark strong emotions and disagreements. Debates on issues like climate change or social justice can ignite passionate disagreements, making conversations tense.

What would Jesus do?

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” — Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

Communication is a vital part of our daily interactions, and for those of us who identify as followers of Christ, we are called to reflect His love and grace in our conversations. Jesus exemplified perfect communication, engaging with people in ways that were both polite and meaningful. He knew how to approach every situation with wisdom and kindness, making those around Him feel valued and understood.

Jesus as Our Model

1. Empathy in Conversation:

Jesus often took the time to listen and understand those He interacted with. Whether it was the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4) or the blind man (Mark 10:46-52), He engaged them with genuine interest. We can follow His example by asking about others’ interests, sharing thoughts on hobbies, and exploring their experiences.

• Starter: “What hobbies do you enjoy in your free time?”

2. Building Relationships:

Jesus built relationships with those around Him, often sharing meals and time together. He demonstrated that conversation can foster connection. We can ask about family activities, traditions, and shared interests to strengthen our relationships.

• Starter: “What’s a fun activity your family likes to do together?”

3. Promoting Positivity:

Jesus spoke words of encouragement and hope. He focused on uplifting those around Him. We can incorporate positive news or light-hearted stories in our conversations to create an uplifting atmosphere.

• Starter: “Have you heard about any interesting events happening in the community?”

4. Celebrating Creation:

Jesus often used nature in His teachings, showing appreciation for God’s creation. We can admire the beauty around us by discussing local attractions or favorite outdoor spots.

• Starter: “What’s your favorite local spot to relax or have fun?”

As we interact with others, we can be intentional about our conversations the way Jesus did. Let’s engage others with humility, genuine curiosity and kindness. Remember LOVE: Listen as you Observe and when you Verbalize, Empathize. We can choose topics that bring joy and connection, helping others feel seen and heard.

Let’s pray.

Father God, thank You for the gift of communication. Help me to reflect Your love in my conversations. Give me the wisdom to choose words that encourage and uplift others. May my interactions be full of grace, just as You have shown me. In Jesus’ sweet name, Amen.

Perfectly imperfect

“As for God, his way is perfect: The Lord’s word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him.” 2 Samuel 22:31

I am posting this not to blame, but only as an eye-opener. I realized I am messed up because I have messed up parents. I am imperfectly raised by a perfectionist mom and imperfectly loved by a perfectionist dad.

Should I let that hinder me from being the perfect parent to my son? To begin with, I will never ever be a perfect parent. No one is a perfect parent. Try as I might, whatever efforts I put in, no matter how perfect the plan (or the non-plan) is, I would fail.

So I can rest.

I can rest believing that I am perfectly loved by a perfect Heavenly Father who loves ALL OF ME, including my imperfections. He loves me in spite of my fears, my doubts and my inability and inconsistency to choose what’s best for me or my loved ones.

I may not always choose perfectly, I may not always make the right decision but I can choose to rest, to trust in His perfect peace, in His perfect love, for me.